6 brutal truths to teach your kids, NOW

Life is NOT a fairytale

Life is not like Cinderella.  Nothing and no one is perfect and there will be no one to come sweep you off your feet. The only thing that will sweep you off your feet is a banana peel on the floor at the supermarket.  So figure out what you want to do, set a goal and go for it.  Reach for the stars rather than waiting for someone to lift you up and bring the stars to you.

Acquaintances vs True friends

Acquaintances will always say they want to make plans with you but never follow through. They will talk with you when they want to talk to you but not always available to talk when you want to talk. They will do things with their interest in mind and not yours. Friends will drop everything for you if you need them. They will watch your kids without any thought as to how it will affect their plans. They will let you borrow something of theirs and not worry about getting it back because they know that you can be trusted. They will talk to you about anything and listen when you need to talk. And they will make sure you are ok because they truly care about you. Know the difference and save yourself the heartache.

Not everyone will like you

You cannot please everyone, so stop trying. We are not living for others, we are living for ourselves.  People will criticize you, they will be mean to you, they will try and take you down. Don’t let them. Be strong and know you are amazing.

Be nice

Just because you are going through a hard time doesn’t mean you can’t be nice. Just because people are being mean to you doesn’t mean you have to be mean to them. Show them you are a good person by being nice to the mean people, you don’t know what they are dealing with. Maybe you deciding to be nice to them will change their attitude.  Be nice to everyone.  We are in this world together and we don’t need any more negativity.

Scars are what make you, you

Everyone has scars, either physical or emotional. Scars are there because it’s a reminder of something we needed to learn. Love them and learn from them. Be proud of them. They are battle scars. They are beautiful. The lesson you learned will make you a better person.

The world owes you NOTHING

You may come from a wealthy family or you may come from nothing, it doesn’t matter you are not entitled. You do not deserve the world because you think you do.  The world owes you nothing. If you want it WORK for it!

What happens when you do not have a lot of toys?

My husband and I sold our house in November 2016 and we were hoping to buy another house quickly so we packed only a few things that we truly needed and then moved the rest into a storage unit.

It has now been 5 months since we sold our house and we still have not been able to purchase another due to the insane market in the Seattle area.  But what I have learned is we have so much “stuff” that we can live without.  My kids only have enough toys and books that fill a 27 gallon bin. Then of course I have all the baby toys for Mr. A but that is it.

My kids had an entire playroom and a bedroom full of toys. Toys were always everywhere and there was always a huge struggle to find a place to put things. The nice thing about not having too many toys in your home goes way beyond not having to find places to put all of the toys. My house looks cleaner. My kids seem happier. I am happier.

I have never had a lot of outdoor toys for my kids because we haven’t had many chances to have our own yard and even when we did have our own house we did not have a lot. I noticed my kids’ imagination just exploded when they played outside. They would find unique ways to play and they would make up some crazy cool toys just by what they found outside. I have now noticed that same thing happening inside. It is so amazing to see their creativity.

I am not willing to throw out a ton of toys that we have in storage but I am ready to evaluate what we have and quite possibly switch out their toys every few months.

Do you keep all of your kids’ toys out or do you like only keeping a few out at a time? I think whatever way you decide to do it, it’s ok 😊